MISSING BABY JACKSON

Sorry i never blog,

Every time I think to post, I just can't come up with the words to say. All I know to say is that CDH is horrible. I could go on and on about how bad my days can get if i let it get to me, but who wants to hear all that...I will say that I never in a million years thought that I would have to suffer the loss of my child. I hear of mothers all the time that have gone through the loss of their children, and I always thought there is no way in the world that i could ever handle that if it were to happen to me. Guess what it did. Even though it is the hardest thing in the world I believe God has helped me cope. I really wouldn't be strong enough without him, I didn't think I could ever handle something like this, but I'm doing it. There are some days that i just can't get Jackson out of my head and I think i just don't want to go on, I just want to be in heaven taking care of my baby and not suffering anymore, but as soon as i think that God lets me know real fast that i have a family here that needs me and Jackson is better then ever. I still think he needs his mommy though. Ok all you people out there don't take that as i want to kill myself. I've never thought that at all, I just think i want to be with my son, my baby boy that I love so much, then i realize i would have to die to be with him and I don't want that at all. Ty needs me! Everyone tells me that I'm so strong and they don't know how I do it, like i said before it has to be God, because I don't know how i do it either. I don't feel I'm a strong person. I feel like I'm falling apart on the inside and I just know how to hold it in very well. I'll tell you the strongest person I know and that is Rob. He has been so strong for me and Ty. I know he hurts so terribly bad but yet he still goes to work everyday and comes home with a smile on his face ready to see his family. He loves us so much and it's just amazing to feel that kind of love. Rob has been through so much in his life and now he is suffering the loss of his baby boy. That's something else i don't understand, why do some people have to go through so much in their lifetime? Rob is a great person, yet he has had to deal with alot of bad things. He still loves God so much and never questions him like i do. He knows God has a bigger better plan in the end, and so do I, but I don't like not understanding. Lets just say Rob has a HUGE heart and spirit that can't and wont be broken. One day soon I'm going to post about how Jackson did on ecmo and about all his days before he past away. I never got on here to blog while he was in the hospital so people really don't know. What people will be shocked about is that Jackson did very well on ecmo and was always alert and holding my hand. For all you CDH parents out there his sat numbers were always 95 plus and his C02 never came back bad, not one time. The only time his numbers went down were when they had to change his machine. Jackson had 4 ecmo machines in 9 days! The 10Th day they were going for the 5th one but we all know the ending to that. The doctors would tell me that every time they had to change the machine no matter how well the baby is doing it puts them way back! Even if he didn't need ecmo anymore and they had to change the machine it is bad. See it's not the flow that was being cut off that hurt him or set him back but it was his body having to get use to all the new plastic of the new machine. Even my body would go crazy if my blood was having to go through new tubes and plastic every 2 days. Jackson's body would have to adjust to these new machines and he did great every time! His numbers would just go down for like an hour and the doctors were amazed. I still haven't read one story or ever heard of a poor little baby's machine going out every 2 days! Even the ecmo people couldn't believe it. I have no idea why his machines weren't working but it really just pisses me off. When they did Jackson's trial off of ecmo his numbers stayed in the 90's, which means he didn't need it. As soon as they did that trial his machine started going out before they were 100% sure rather to take him off yet and so that was another set back. He was off ecmo for 2 hours and did fine but they wanted a little more time to make sure he would stay that way and his machine got a clot, and then of course he had to have the ecmo. There's lots more to that story though and I'll write some other time about it.....thank you all for the prayers and support


Candice